4.1 10 Essential Questions Surrogate Mothers Should Ask Before Matching with Intended Parents

Choosing the Right Intended Parents for Your Surrogacy Journey

At GSHC Surrogacy, we’ve helped hundreds of women become surrogates—and if there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s that finding the right match makes a big difference.

Every surrogacy journey is unique. Some people want a close connection with the intended parents; others prefer to keep it more professional. There’s no right or wrong—it’s about what feels right for you.

If you're considering becoming a surrogate mother, take time to reflect on your preferences, expectations, and boundaries. Below are ten thoughtful questions to guide you when choosing intended parents.

Questions to Ask as a Surrogate Mother While Matching

What kind of relationship do you want with the intended parents?
(Close friendship, professional, or somewhere in between?)
How often do you expect to communicate with them?
(Daily, weekly, only for important updates?)
Are you comfortable with the intended parents attending medical appointments and the birth?
(Would you prefer privacy, or do you want them involved in the process?)
How do you feel about post-birth contact?
(Do you want updates about the baby, occasional messages, or no contact after delivery?)
What are your views on embryo transfer and carrying multiples?
(Are you open to transferring more than one embryo or carrying twins?)
What are your thoughts on embryo reduction or termination?
(Would you be okay proceeding with or refusing termination for medical/genetic reasons?)
Do you have any personal boundaries regarding diet, travel, or lifestyle restrictions during pregnancy?
(Are you comfortable following requests from the intended parents regarding these aspects?)
Would you prefer to work with domestic or international intended parents, and do you have a preference for a single parent, a married couple, or a same-sex couple?
(Would cultural differences, language barriers, or family structure affect your choice?)
What level of emotional support do you expect from the intended parents during the pregnancy and birth?
(Do you want them involved and supportive, or do you prefer a more independent experience?)
Are you comfortable discussing your birth plan with the intended parents, or do you prefer to make your own medical decisions?
(Would you allow their input, or do you want full control over birth choices?)

Additional Questions for Experienced Surrogates

If you’ve been a surrogate before, this is a beautiful time to pause and reflect. Every journey teaches us something. Maybe you loved the connection you had with your last intended parents—or maybe you realized you'd prefer more space and independence next time. Think about what felt good, what you'd like more of, and what you might want to do differently. Are you open to a new kind of match, or do you already know what works best for you and your family? There's no wrong answer—just what feels right in your heart this time around.

Red Flags to Watch for in a Match with Intended Parents

Not all intended parents are the right fit. At GSHC Surrogacy Agency, we carefully screen intended parents to ensure a safe and positive experience for our surrogate mothers. However, you should also be aware of potential red flags, such as:

Financial Readiness – Do they seem financially prepared for the journey?
Respect & Communication – Are they responsive, respectful, and clear in their expectations?
Control & Boundaries – Do they seem overly controlling or push against your comfort zones?
Realistic Expectations – Do they understand the process, or do they have unrealistic demands?
Emotional Readiness – Do they seem prepared for the emotional journey of surrogacy?

A trusted surrogacy agency like GSHC will ensure that all intended parents are financially, emotionally, and legally prepared before matching them with a surrogate mother.

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